WHY don't we?

Why is it that we do many things but not (often) the things that really matter? I need to lose weight (groan) and you may need to buy a house but I don't stop eating and you don't step over the threshold of an estate agent's. Yet we are capable intelligent women. We could do what each other need to do - I would love trawling through estate agents seeking out that perfect property, and you may have no problem eating plenty of healthy foods. Yet we can't do what we really need to for ourselves.

Is it fear? Are we afraid that if we start on our quest we may not succeed? I feel it is that we are seeing the problem rather than the solution. And when we concentrate on the problem it gets bigger and more dominating and therefore less easy to tackle so we don't bother. Whereas if we saw the solution and worked towards that - joy! Motivation indeed.

So why is it that we see the negative rather than the positive? And why don't we see the 'us' that others see? Also - and this is weird - are we scared of succeeding?

I've decided that in order to achieve something we have to focus on the end result rather than the process itself. Whether it is buying a house, getting a new job, getting fit: don't think about the how, just think about it being, at the end. So that's what I'm going to do. Starting now. And in a way it's a different way of looking at things because we've always been taught to be methodical and start at the beginning but actually maybe here we have to start at the end - the result we wish to achieve. Maybe by starting at the end we find ourselves at the beginning - at the point of satisfaction and hope. And that's surely where we'd all like to be.